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22 July 2006 @ 09:59 pm
The Hairy Eyeball at Starbucks  
I'm pleased to report that after some problems getting used to the new routine Rainy is now nursing successfully. I'm impressed with her since she had nothing but bottles for the first 3 months.
Today my husband and I took her out shopping and afterwards we stopped for drinks at Starbucks. Rainy was sleeping so we set up in a quiet corner. When she woke up I fed her. I was wearing a nursing tank and I had a small blanket over my shoulder. I use the blanket more as an easily read signal that she's nursing rather than a cover since the nursing tank doesn't reveal much. The blanket at least prevents people from coming over to see her while she's eating. She'd been sucking away under there for awhile when I noticed a middle age woman across the coffee shop staring and giving me an angry look. She then whispered something to her husband. He turned around, and had to lean forward to see around a pillar so that he could look. Then the pair of them are whispering. I just looked back and made eye contact with her. When she nudged her husband to look I did the same to my husband and he looked back at them too. They never said anything, but it put a damper on our lattes in any case, lol.

The whole thing got me to thinking about how much I would LOVE to see a series of PSAS for breastfeeding aimed not at expectant moms, but at the general public. When good morning america featured the story on breastfeeding in public I was surprised at not only how many people believe nursing in public is wrong (57% according to the american dietetic association), but at how many are ignorant of how breastfeeding works. People ask "Why can't these nursing moms just pump and give bottles when they're out if they know it makes people uncomfortable?" If you don't know anything about pumping and nursing that seems completely reasonable. More and more businesses now understand that they can't kick out breastfeeding moms but other customers can be even more of an obstacle to a new mom who is unsure of herself. No one wants to be stared at, or even worse have something rude said to them. I'm enough of a troublemaker not to let it get to me, but I can see where another mom might be pushed to give up.
Current Mood: calmcalm
Mama Bearmartemom on July 23rd, 2006 03:25 pm (UTC)
I'm so glad things are going well for you. That PSA idea is REALLY good!
Joangoodjoan on July 23rd, 2006 05:44 pm (UTC)
I had a similar gawker when Owen was nursing. The big difference was that he was like 6 or 8 months old and wiggling all over and letting go a lot. I finally got him settled and looked up and a guy across the restaurant was staring at me, and then said to his dinner partner "that lady is breastfeeding" (I could see his lips, it was very clear) and she then turned around in her chair to look. I just sat there and stared at HIM. Eventually his eyes wandered back up to my face and he saw that I was watching him. I beamed a HUGE smile and he turned 3 shades of red and buried his face back into his empanadas! No more problem! Hubby asked me "what are you looking at? and I said "OH just some rude guy staring at me!" He just laughed and went back to eating. He realized right from the start that I wasn't one to take any crap from people over nursing!